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  • Writer's picturePamela Brusa

9 Ways To Increase Emotional Intelligence

Now you may be wondering what Emotional intelligence is… well, it’s the ability to understand, use, and manage your own emotions in positive ways to relieve stress, communicate effectively, empathize with others, overcome challenges and defuse conflict.

With the world we are living in right now we need Emotional intelligence to build stronger relationships and make informed decisions.

It’s a known fact that it’s not the smartest people who are the most successful or the most fulfilled in life. We all know someone who is academically brilliant and yet is socially inept and unsuccessful at work or in their personal relationships. Intellectual ability or IQ isn’t enough on its own to achieve success in life.

And yes, your IQ can help you get into college, but your EQ will help you manage the stress and emotions when facing your life in college.

Here are simple skills that can improve your Emotional Intelligence:

Utilize an assertive style of communicating.

Emotionally intelligent people know how to communicate their opinions and needs in a direct way while still respecting others. Respond instead of reacting to conflict

The emotionally intelligent person knows how to stay calm during stressful situations. They don't make impulsive decisions that can lead to even bigger problems. They understand that in times of conflict the goal is a resolution. Utilize active listening skills

In conversations, emotionally intelligent people listen for clarity instead of just waiting for their turn to speak. They make sure they understand what is being said before responding. This prevents misunderstandings. Be motivated

Emotionally intelligent people are self-motivated, and their attitude motivates others. They set goals and are resilient in the face of challenges.

Practice ways to maintain a positive attitude

Don't underestimate the power of your attitude. A negative attitude easily infects others if a person allows it. Emotionally intelligent people have an awareness of the moods of those around them and guard their attitude accordingly. This could include having a great breakfast or lunch, engaging in prayer or keeping positive quotes at their desk or computer. Practice self-awareness

Emotionally intelligent people are self-aware and intuitive. They are aware of their own emotions and how they can affect those around them. They also pick up on others' emotions and body language and use that information to enhance their communication skills.

Take critique well

An important part of increasing your emotional intelligence is to be able to take critique. Instead of getting offended or defensive, high EQ people take a few moments to understand where the critique is coming from, how it is affecting others or their own performance and how they can constructively resolve any issues. Empathize with others

Emotionally intelligent people know how to empathize. They understand that empathy is a trait that shows emotional strength, not weakness. It opens the door for mutual respect and understanding between people with differing opinions and situations. Be approachable and sociable

Emotionally intelligent people come off as approachable. They smile and give off a positive presence. They utilize appropriate social skills based on their relationship with whomever they are around. They have great interpersonal skills and know how to communicate clearly, whether the communication is verbal or nonverbal.


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